change in status

For a while now, I’ve had profiles up on OK Cupid and JDate. I’ve met a couple of interesting people through both sites, and in the past month or so there’s been somewhat of a deluge of private messages that other users are sending me — starting just about the same time that I began seeing my current beau. This is also, incidentally, the same timeframe for old and new friends alike — out of the clear blue sky — to start offering to set me up.

When it rains, it pours, eh?

In the past week, OK Cupid has been sending me several-times-daily e-mails to let me know that I’ve gotten messages from other users. Same goes for JDate. I was ignoring these e-mails, putting off what I knew I had to do.

Friday morning, I surfed over to OK Cupid, pulled up my profile, and changed my status from “Single” to “Seeing Someone.” It felt really strange to do that, as though I might jinx the very new…. umm, thing …. I’ve got going on with this guy.*

(* Who apparently does read this weblog from time to time, and who asks me each time we see each other, “So, is this going on the blog?”)

There are adjustments to be made, now that I find myself “no longer available.” It’s not like I have a checklist or anything, as it’s been quite a while since I’ve been remotely interested in anyone, and it’s very early still. This topic of “mutual exclusivity” has been hinted at but not yet broached — and I’m not sure I’m ready for that conversation anyway, even though I am actively turning down dates with other men. Part of it is just getting used to being around someone else, learning about his tastes and preferences, and finding out just why exactly his dog is morally opposed to window coverings.

I suppose I should also buy new underwear — something a bit more interesting that my standard Jockey bikinis and Victoria’s Secret camisoles with shelf-bras. And maybe I’ll muse on possible menus should I start thinking about inviting the Gentile Vegetarian for dinner chez Jen et Les Singes. (Even in the midst of the “carpet problem,” which is another discussion.)

But first, I guess I’ll visit JDate and disable my profile.